Finding the Joy in the Journey
When my boyfriend told me he could do better than me, I was admittedly a bit hurt. He didn’t mean it in an unkind way – he was actually trying to make me feel better. But it took me a while to understand that. The words stung and I felt insecure, not knowing if he was telling the truth or if he was simply trying to make me feel better.
It’s easy to get caught up in comparison and comparison culture. We compare ourselves to our friends, our coworkers, and the people we follow on social media. We often feel a sense of inadequacy or a need to be better. It’s easy to forget that we’re all on our own journey and that our paths are unique and special.
My first step towards finding joy in the journey was learning to quiet the noise around me. That meant silencing the voices in my head and my environment that said I had to be better than everyone else. Instead, I chose to focus on the joys of the journey. I started to look for the little moments of joy in my everyday life – the moments that make life special. I embraced the joy of learning new skills, trying something for the first time, and taking on new challenges.
I also learned to focus on self-compassion and self-growth. I started to think about how I can use my journey to become the best version of myself. I stopped comparing myself to others and instead focused on how I can use my journey to learn, grow, and challenge myself. I began to look at my journey as an adventure, learning something new every day.
Finally, I started to practice gratitude. I chose to focus on the things that I am grateful for, instead of the things that I don’t have. I found joy in the little things, like a cup of coffee with a friend or a walk in the park. It was a reminder that I am blessed with so many things and that it’s important to appreciate them.
Celebrating the Little Things with My SO
Once I had found joy in the journey, I was able to move past my boyfriend’s words and instead focus on celebrating our journey together.
I started to focus on all the little things that make us special. Instead of trying to compete with one another, we celebrated our shared successes. We celebrated the moments that made us laugh, cry, and be in awe – the special moments that bring us together. We cherished the moments that we shared, from the simple conversations to the big milestones.
We also started to appreciate our individual journeys. We both have our own goals and dreams and we wanted to support each other in achieving them. We celebrated each other’s successes and cheered each other on, encouraging one another to keep going. We also shared our struggles and our failures, helping each other learn and grow.
Next, we started to focus on being kinder to ourselves. We both learned to be more forgiving and understanding of ourselves and each other. We focused on the things that we loved about ourselves and we learned to accept our flaws. We began to recognise that we are all works in progress and that our journey is an ever-evolving one.
Finally, we started to find joy in the small moments. We celebrated the little things and found joy in the everyday moments, like the sun setting, a good cup of coffee, or a funny joke. We stopped taking life for granted and learned to appreciate the moments that made us smile. We also made sure to spend time together, cherishing the moments that brought us closer.
My boyfriend’s words may have hurt at first, but they ultimately taught me a valuable lesson – to enjoy the journey and celebrate all the little things.
